This last week my friend Rhea at The Cocktail Café asked me a question that really got me thinking. Really THINKING!
She asked me what a single mom was and if being a single mom was different then being, well not a single mom. Yes I am married and yes I am a mom. I am married to the father of my two kids so by definition I have never been a “single” mom.
But what is really a single mom. It depends on who you ask and how they perceive the word “single”. And is being a single mom different then being a married mom?
When I hear Single mom I think of a mom who is doing everything on her own, taking care of the kids, bringing home the bacon, and handling the household without any assistance. Something I’m not sure I could handle and I’m amazed by the moms who do.
Then there is the single mom that does mostly everything but gets outside assistance from the father or from her family and friends. The Hubs and I live too far away from family so the only support group we currently have is ourselves. That doesn’t say much when you want to do things as just a couple. We have to pay for daycare while we work; we have to pay a babysitter if we want to go out.
Then there is what I like to call the “single mom syndrome” mom. A mom with single mom syndrome is a mom who is married but still cares for the children exclusively, brings home the bacon and does most of the household work. They don’t usually have family around to help out. In fact it doesn’t even have to be something that happens all the time, it can be on occasion. Say dad is a pilot or in the service or dad just travels a lot.
I am a married mother but sometimes I feel bouts of the single mom syndrome. It can be hard to get the Hubs to participate in the housework and various other things around the house that it makes me feel like I’m doing it all alone. It’s not all the time but it happens from time to time. I can’t be the only mom that feels that way.
Listen in as Rhea from the Cocktail Café talks about Single vs. Married moms on blogtalkradio.com.
What is your definition of a single mom? Have you experienced the single mom syndrome?